Oh really?

Truly, I'm bugged. My 17 year old daughter snaps to me, "Mom, I'm NOT a feminist like you!" Oh really? Bet me. Let anyone play favoritism to her twin brother, based on thier sexes. Let anyone tell her how to dress or what to think or how a nice girl should behave, Not that she's not a nice girl. She most definitely is. But I'm pretty sure that she wouldn't take kindly to someone telling her that she has to stay home, make babies and take orders from a man (who may or may not be a womanizer, a drunk, a criminal, an abuser, or all of the above. I'm pretty sure that she wouldn't want to date someone who stands her up in an patriarcal attempt to establish control. She says she's not a feminist because she doesn't want to be negatively labled. But she's only 17. I still have hope for her. On the other hand, there are some-self proclaimed feminists that I would never want to be associated with. The pro-porn feminists do more damage to society than sometimes the men who abuse them. The breast-feeder bullies have got the sisters afraid to go back to work, for fear of being labled a bad mom. Labels, labels, lables. Is that all it takes to scare you? And what about the men? I've seen decent, well mannered men regress into Hyde-like monsters the minute another male enters the room. Wouldn't want to be mistaken for being whipped. Seriously? Is that all it takes? I wish that people would just be true. Being a good person doesn't mean that you HAVE to follow popular opinion. To be a good person, one doesn't have to follow anything. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a leader. Even if it sometimes looks like no one's following. And sometimes it does. But that's okay, unless they're blind, I know they see me. Or at the very least they hear me, when I stop and I laugh and they say, "I'm not that," and I look at their face and say, "Bet me."